When I'm feeling not-so-good and tangled up in emotions, I know I have some weeding to do. I could keep myself busy in other ways and ignore the weeds, but they will continue to grow bigger and stronger and will eventually overtake the garden, inhibiting the growth of the flowers and the vegetables. In other words, inhibiting the growth of the collective soul. So, giving attention to the weeds is the first step in cultivating the growth of our own soul-garden.
It was then that I asked myself the same question I ask my clients when their emotions seem highly charged relative to the story they are telling. And that question is: "Does this situation resemble another experience you may have had in the past?" It certainly did. And it was a situation that I've dwelled on for so long, that I actually drove a friend crazy because she was so tired of hearing about it.
First, I used a strategy given to me by my personal Coach, Elizabeth Hurst. I wrote out all of my negative thoughts onto a page until my head was empty. Then on a new page, I rewrote everything in the opposite and positive form. Let me tell you this process alone is very transformative, and I also threw in some EFT along with it. The final step is to burn the page with those negative thoughts. That's right. Burn it.